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Coaching and training in Mental Toughness and Resilience gives people, teams and organisations confidence and a competitive edge. You are learning the attitudes, qualities and skills that enable you to perform effectively and thrive under difficult and challenging conditions. On this page, you will find definitions of Mental Toughness together with details of private sessions, public seminars and training courses for companies and organisations.
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We specialise in providing training and coaching for people and organisation development. Our courses are aimed at people in demanding positions and organisations going through changes. The focus is on mental toughness resilience and confidence so that you can meet challenges head-on.
We are qualified and experienced therapists with private practices in Harley Street. We have developed these courses based on what we have seen as a growing need for people and their organisations to be more resilient within an increasingly challenging and demanding business environment.
There is no new age mumbo jumbo here. We teach you empirically tested and proven concepts from psychology, behavioural psychology and biopsychology. We will challenge and change people's attitudes together with their thinking, behaviour, emotions and physiology. We aim for lasting and philosophical change in your people so that participants can put into practise what they learn on a long-term basis, rather than participants becoming hyped up for two or three days and then returning to their old habits.
Training courses are developed around the current and future needs of your organisation. We will consult with you to discuss the course content, format and objectives that you would like to achieve. Wherever possible, we are keen to be evidence based so that you can measure the results of your investment with us. Training can be provided on a day or weekly basis to fit around your staffing and operational needs. There are more details on the courses and training page here
At the core of many of our difficulties are our thoughts and beliefs - we are what we think and we have the ability to change our thoughts in an instant. By changing our thinking, we change who we are and what we do. Our thoughts and beliefs also make up our worldview - how we see ourselves, others, the world and life's conditions. Our worldview reflects how we make sense of life and living - what life actually means to us. We constantly need to refine, update and clarify our worldview, so that we remain mentally and emotionally robust to face the challenges of life and stay in tune with reality.
Mental toughness is about exploring, challenging and changing our thoughts and as a result our emotions, actions, behaviour and physiology, so that they are productive and helping us get where we want to go. Mental toughness is a discipline, an attitude and a philosophy that we can use in many areas of our lives.
Mental toughness is a philosophy for life and living; having the confidence to face change and life's challenges head-on.
Mental toughness is realising our freedom and choice; taking action and accepting responsibility for our lives.
Mental toughness is a set of attitudes, beliefs, thinking and behaviour that enables us to meet our aims, objectives and survival.
Mental toughness is having a relentless commitment and focus on our goals; mental toughness is the ultimate in willpower, persistence and focused action
The definitions are simple but the practice can be an entirely different thing. There are many more aspects, qualities and components to mental toughness and that's why it continues to be my main area of interest. For me, mental toughness is a fascinating concept and goes to the very essence of what it is to be human. Mental toughness raises many questions, such as
I think the central question is, how much control do we really have over our thoughts and actions?
Ultimately, can we really change, and are we free?
Yes, of course we can change - we are human - but very often we will have to overcome our conditioning and the other factors mentioned above. Therefore, we must accept the fact, that change requires work and is often uncomfortable. That's why mental toughness is indispensable. It is my aim (whether you see me one to one or attend a course) that you will make lasting philosophical changes and develop new attitudes and beliefs that bring you long-term benefits and results; so rather than just be feeling better you will be getting better and continue to develop and progress.
Why is mental toughness desirable?
Mental toughness is essential throughout our lives when we wish to accomplish specific goals and objectives such as
Mental toughness is central to overcoming our unwanted habits and developing new behaviour, for example within
Mental toughness is indispensable for changes in our personal lives such as
Mental toughness is crucial in changing negative emotions such as
Mental Toughness Principles
Here are, what I believe, to be some of the key philosophies, attributes, and traits that encompass mental toughness. Many of these areas you will, no-doubt excel in - others may need some attention. If you are interested in mental toughness, resilience or confidence and would like to learn more, then send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will keep you updated, alternatively register for the newsletter above. I also welcome any comments or observations that you have regarding mental toughness and your own experiences.
Being goal directed
Goal directed thinking and behaviour supports us in our aims, objectives and survival. Having established a clear sense of our objectives and where we are going in life, we can then ensure that our thinking and behaviour supports us and question those thoughts, beliefs and actions that do not.
Tolerance for frustration and discomfort
Developing a high tolerance for frustration and discomfort is vital to good mental health and an indispensable factor for mental toughness. We need to be realistic and accept that people and situations will not always be the way we want them and that conditions will not always be favourable.
In order to achieve our goals and keep to our commitments we will often need to suffer short-term pain for long-term gains. We need to persist and maintain our focus. This is not easy by any means, as we are evolutionary hard-wired to seek immediate comfort and pleasure rather than long-term goals.
We all prefer to be comfortable and not suffer discomfort. However, if we demand that we must be comfortable all of the time, then we will find it very difficult to persist with any new task or commitments such as exercise, studying and dieting. If we continuously tell ourselves "it's too hard" or "I can't stand it" then we stand very little chance of long-term success. Our need to experience comfort rather than frustration or hassle can cause us to procrastinate and put off everyday tasks such as paying the bills. So even though it is in our best interests to suffer some short-term hassle we may put it off, and as a consequence suffer more aggravation in the long-term.
Having a high tolerance for frustration and discomfort means that we will develop the discipline required to stick with our goals and persist. We will need to challenge and dispute the thoughts and beliefs that underpin our low frustration tolerance (LFT) and build high frustration tolerance (HFT). The good news is that we can change; it just takes a bit of mental toughness and often some brutal honesty.
Sticking it out through the bad times in order to reach the good times.
People with low commitment give up easily and do not devote energy and resources to solving a problem. People with long-term objectives will do what ever it takes to overcome a difficulty or obstacle rather than doing only that which is expected by peers or convention. Having persistence means that we will continue in pursuing our goals even when the going gets tough.
The perceived ability of an individual to have autonomy and exert influence over their destiny rather than experience helplessness. Control is a "must" for mental toughness. After all, if you are not in control of your life, then who is?
People who have commitment to goals, believe that they have some control over their destiny rather than being totally helpless. If we believe that a positive outcome is possible, then we will respond to failures and setbacks by trying harder, increasing our efforts and problem solving. Of course there are some occasions in life where there will be no opportunity to affect a change, in these circumstances the change needs to be within us personally. We must accept reality and constantly appraise a changing world and our place within it. We must persistently learn to cope with new facts and directions in our lives. We must be relentless in our adaptability, ingenuity and creativity to survive. If we believe that we are in control, then we can relish the challenge of change. Standing still is not an option for mental toughness.
The ability and desire to change and develop rather than remain static, viewing change as the norm and an exciting part of life.
We are more in control when we see change as a challenge. This means seeing change as a positive event that provides opportunities for growth and learning rather than a threat to our security and survival or a distressing thing to be avoided. By accepting that things change and bad events do happen and are a normal part of life, we will adapt, be flexible and problem solve, realising that we need to change our response. The less resilient will complain how such an awful thing can happen and that they do not deserve such a fate and so resist adapting.
Rational thinking is based on the coaching approaches of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT)
Rational thinking is one of the foundations of mental toughness. In simple terms rational thinking helps us whereas irrational thinking blocks us. Rational thinking helps us to appraise threats and dangers realistically and therefore not over-react or avoid challenges: rational thinking is resilient thinking. and increases confidence. Irrational thinking leads to unhelpful emotions and behaviour such as anxiety, depression and avoidance. Challenging and disputing our thoughts and beliefs is hard work, as we are often looking to challenge and change deeply held beliefs about ourselves, others and the world, that have been part of us for most of our lives. Changing our thinking and beliefs leads to emotional, behavioural, physiological and most importantly philosophical change. Philosophical change is deep permanent change; you will view yourself, others and the world differently. Here are some essential differences between irrational and rational thinking:
Thoughts, beliefs, emotions, behaviour, physiology and the environment
Even though we are focusing on mental toughness, we must not restrict ourselves to the view that "if we only think the right things, everything will be fine". That's clearly nonsense and "magical thinking". Nothing happens in isolation. We need to look at the affects and interplay between our thoughts/beliefs, emotions, behaviour, physiology and the environment. Similarly having intellectual insight is not enough; we must act, change our behaviour and have evidence of effective and lasting change - philosophical change.
Preferring not demanding
Demands, musts, have to's ought to's and unconditional shoulds are inflexible and rigid beliefs. Often we are disturbed - or more accurately - we disturb ourselves by turning a flexible and rational preference in to a rigid and irrational demand. For example:
"I would prefer everyone to like me, therefore they have to".
Demanding beliefs can be about ourselves, others and the world. If we hold these rigid beliefs and demand that things must or must not happen, in order for us to be happy; then it is inevitable that we will become upset when things do not go our way. Having rigid beliefs and rules can make us anxious, frustrated and depressed. Demands will often contain the words "must" and "should". For example:
"Everyone must like and approve of me"
If we hold rigid beliefs and views about ourselves, other people or the world, then it is more likely that we will be upset and come into conflict. Having preferences rather than demands helps us develop confidence and mental toughness. Preferences are flexible ideas regarding how we would like things to be, without demanding and insisting that they must always be that way. If our beliefs are more flexible and are held as preferences or desired outcomes rather than absolute demands, then we are less likely to upset ourselves. We need to turn our irrational demands back into rational preferences. For example
"It would be nice if everyone liked and approved of me, but they don't have to".
Our confidence will vary from one task to another. If we believe that we can and will persevere despite our doubts and the views or criticisms from others, then we are more likely to try new things and take calculated risks. Having confidence means that we will progress, develop and move forwards in life rather than remain static and caught in the same routines or limiting mindset.
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